What pitch are you vibrating today?

Energy is a naturally vibrating substance. Atoms vibrate all the time and vibration is naturally linked with sound. Just think of a vibrating string, surface of a drum or a tube-like instrument that is being blown into like a didgeridoo. Even when we can’t hear it, feel it or we don’t know it’s happening, the energy within us and around us is vibrating. 

Resonance is an important part of sound therapy. We all have an internal frequency that we vibrate on. When something resonates with a vibration, such as a sound wave, then it becomes greater. 

Physics describes resonance as an abnormally large vibration when energies align. 

The main areas of resonance within the human body are the chest cavity and our skull due to its large space. Our bones are excellent sound conductors. That’s why musicians hit the tuning fork against their hand or head to make it resonate then touch the knob of the fork against their bone next to their ear or some touches the knob against their elbow bone or knee bone to hear the tuning fork’s A. From that A they calculate the pitch they need and vocalise it to their choral singers or to themselves. 

Sound therapy aims to create healing by bringing the sound in tune with the natural vibration of the one being treated. 

Finding personal resonance with voice is achieved by placing one hand on the diaphragm and one on the back parallel and singing from the lowest to the highest note. As the natural resonance is reached the hands should vibrate. Mine was a D at the time of writing this blog article. My personal pitch according to my start sign is an F. So that's a third lower than normally my "body pitch" is. Your pitch and personal frequency can change due to weather, activity, state of health, mood, company, diet, surroundings and many other factors. Increasing your vibration is the most important task to stay healthy and happy. 

Resonance works in other ways too, which is why we are affected by the energy of others. This is the result of our own energy reading the energy of another and mirroring it. This is why you always need to pay attention to what kind of people you attract. They clearly show your state of energy at that moment or that day! If you are dating, be alert. When you are going through a tough period of time you will attract partner of similar position from when dating in a good period of your life. Partners sooner or later equalise their energies or they separate. 

As vibration naturally draws towards other vibrations we can actually feel our energy dropping when listening to complaints of others. Similarly, when listening to music that is sad or destructive like heavy metal. This is why we must guard our energy wisely or we will end up feeling exhausted and depressed. Think of certain professions like doctors, counsellors, psychiatrists, nurses, paramedics, police, aid workers or aged care workers who constantly deal with complaints, tragedies and people with low energy. They need to be aware of their energy supplies and stay on a higher frequency. 

Of course, we must include our learning experiences, self-esteem and confidence when we consider how our energy is affected by the vibration of others, yet on a deeper level we must consider our natural energy flow too. Regular sound therapy, or other energy healing can restore or natural vibration whilst untreated negative energy can lead to sickness and depression. 

Interestingly, there is an area in the brain that contains a neuron that subconsciously causes one person to mirror the emotional state of another, this neuron is called mirror neuron. 

Although we don’t know why they exist, mirror neurons provide alignment of current energy between two people or living creatures. We feel like we are on the same frequency. 

The Chi Machine

The other day I went for a massage at a new place. Before massage my masseuse asked me to spend a few minutes on a weird machine I have never seen and never tried. It is called the Chi Machine. Enjoy the video!

I am sure that most of you know that Chi means energy force in Chinese culture. It is also a name of a dragon in Chinese mythology. But you probably don't know that Chi is a traditional Chinese unit of length ("Chinese foot"), approximately ⅓ of a meter. Chi is a name of a River in Thailand.

"Chi, according to traditional Chinese culture, qì or ch'i (also known as gi in Korean culture, ki in Japanese culture and Prana in Indian culture) is an active principle forming part of any living thing. Qiliterally translates as "breath", "air", or "gas", and figuratively as "material energy", "life force", or "energy flow". Qi is the central underlying principle in traditional Chinese medicine and martial arts.

Concepts similar to qi can be found in many cultures, for example, prana in the Hindu religion, "chi" in the Igbo religion, pneuma in ancient Greece, mana in Hawaiian culture, lüng in Tibetan Buddhism, ruah in Hebrew culture, and vital energy in Western philosophy. Some elements of qi can be understood in the term energy when used by writers and practitioners of various esoteric forms of spirituality and alternative medicine. Elements of the qi concept can also be found in Western popular culture, for example "The Force" in Star Wars and Jediism. Notions in the West of energeia, élan vital, or "vitalism" are purported to be similar." Wikipedia

Put simply, chi (qi) is that which gives life. In terms of the body, chi is that which differentiates a corpse from a live human being. A strong life force makes a human being totally alive, alert and present while a weak force results in sluggishness and fatigue. Energy can be increased in a human being. You can increase and develop your chi to overcome illness, become more vibrant and enhance mental capacity. Consequently, the development of chi can make an ill person robust or a weak person vibrant. 

The concept of chi also extends beyond the physical body, to the subtle energies that activate all human functions, including emotions and thought. Unbalanced chi causes your emotions to become agitated and distressed. Balanced chi causes your emotions to become smooth and more satisfying.

Qigong, tai chi and other form of Taoist martial and healing arts, help you to develop subtle chi-energy, not as an idea but rather lead you to directly feel and experience what this is in your body.

As I was explained later, Chi Machine is the result of 38 years of medical and scientific research by renowned Japanese scientist Dr. Shizou Inoue. The Chi Machine enables the human body to gently move from side to side in a figure of eight (the same way a goldfish swims), maximizing the body's natural absorption of oxygen, using all the movement orbits of the human anatomy. This movement may be compared to a masseuse holding your ankles and swinging you from side to side after a massage.

The machine has an ankle cradle on the top which oscillates (moves from side to side), at approximately 140/minute - a multiple of the average pulse rate (72) and the cerebro-spinal pump rhythm (12) synchronized with your heart rate, blood pressure and spinal alignment - creating a balanced, rhythmic, relaxing wave-like motion throughout your entire body, thereby oxygenating every cell and tissue via blood circulation, thus enhancing your metabolic rate, aiding detoxification via the lymphatic system, aligning your spine and activating the autonomic nervous system.

Excellent benefits for the frail, physically challenged, seniors, wheelchair bound or bedridden:
Due to its low impact operation, the Chi Machine is extremely valuable to those who through age or physical limitations, can't exercise. These people in particular benefit tremendously from the gentle massaging effect created by the oxygenating passive exerciser and its assistance in the movement of lymphatic fluid in the body.

The machine relieves aches, pains and stiffness enabling seniors to be more comfortable and mobile.

The Chi Machine 'work-out' is done lying down with no pressure, stress or tension applied to any part of your body. NO risk of injury. Heartbeat and blood pressure do not increase. NO stress to your spine, heart, muscles, ligaments, joints or lungs.

PRIMARY BENEFITS:

IT'S ALL ABOUT MOVEMENT OF THE BODY.

The Chi Machine allows Cellular Oxygenation, Lymphatic System Detoxification,
Spinal Alignment, Autonomic Nervous System Stimulation and Mental Focus.

The very specific one set speed and figure of eight motion of the Chi Machine aligns
your spine, regulates body functions and relaxes your body without any stress or effort.

The Chi Machine creates massage of internal organs via passive aerobic exercise.

Movement of the body - consistent motion energy - creates cellular oxygenation
of both the body and the brain, thereby allowing:
1) Reduction in muscle soreness, tension, stiffness, body aches and pains.
2) Improved flexibility of muscles and joints, more limber - spinal alignment.
3) Improved function and regulation of internal organs and body systems.
4) Improved circulation - activated lymph drainage and detoxification.
5) Relief from stress related conditions.
6) The brain shifts into a relaxed Alpha brainwave state - mental calm, focus, clarity,
and relaxation.
7) Sound, restful sleep.
8) Improved metabolic rate - Increased energy and improved sense of well being.

This is how the aura of a person clears as a consequence of using the Chi Machine. 

 

THE IMPORTANCE OF YOUR LYMPHATIC SYSTEM:
Your Lymphatic System MUST be activated daily in order to remove toxicity.
Lymph can only be moved around the body as the result of physical activity.

The Lymphatic System is spread like a tree, throughout your body delivering nutrients to the cells and removing the waste that is left behind. it is vital to take daily actions to stimulate the flow of lymph to assist in the removal of waste products from your body. In fact it is so crucial to your health, that you would die within 24 hours if this system quit working.

The Lymphatic System - which also includes the spleen, thymus, tonsils, and bone marrow - is constantly defending the body against millions of microscopic attackers. The lymphatic system is given considerable attention in the treatment of toxicity as well as reducing edema.

Tiny vessels carry a colorless fluid called lymph. Suspended in the fluid are lymphocytes (white blood cells) whose purpose is to fight disease and infection. The network is connected by small bean sized organs called lymph nodes. Lymph nodes - which are mostly in the arm pits, neck, groin, chest and abdomen - filter the fluid and initiate your body's immune system response.

You have 3 times as much lymph fluid in your body as you do blood but, unlike blood there is no pump to circulate the fluid. Lack of exercise, shallow breathing and even anger causes the lymphatic system to become sluggish, which can cause circulation to the cells to be impaired. This, in turn, can effect the removal of toxic waste. Exercise, massage and deep breathing will stimulate the Lymphatic system, enable detox, cleansing and pain release.

If toxins are not eliminated from your cells effectively, numerous disorders effecting the Immune System will develop. The original Sun Ancon Chi Machine effectively and speedily moves body fluids, aiding the lymphatic system in detox, extremely important for those who get very little exercise, the elderly, the sick and people in physical rehabilitation.

"What is so remarkable to me is the ability of the Chi Machine to activate the lymphatic vessels
to purify the lymph fluid that cells live in, with little or no effort on the part of the patient."
- Dr. Samuel West.

Dr. Samuel West, Chemist and Lymphologist, a leading authority on the Lymphatic System states "Every healing art on earth involves getting oxygen to cells!" Dr. West has dedicated a lifetime to studying the Lymphatic System. "When the lymphatic vessels are properly activated they have the ability to pull out the dead cells, poisons, and excess water from around the cells to get the cells into what is called the "Dry-State".

When we do what is necessary to get the cells into the "Dry State" there is no excess water around the cells, only enough water to fill the crevices around the cells, and that is all. This is the condition that all the cells in your body must be in to get oxygen from the blood stream. Furthermore, you don't get pain, loss of energy or disease (of any kind) when the cells are in this condition." - Dr. Samuel West.

Professor Neil Piller one of the world's top ten leading authorities on Lymphoedema, said he found the Chi Machine to be the most globally efficient method of lymph drainage, after he completed 16 months of scientific clinical trials and medical research, at the prestigious Medical Centre of Flinders University in Adelaide, South Australia. The results were so impressive that Flinders University - who have absolutely NO vested interest in the Hsin Ten Company (HTE) or the Sun Ancon Chi Machine - have issued 3 booklets (Secondary Lymphoedema, Venus Oedema and Patient Testimonials), on the results of the medical trials for their patients, their staff and for the public.

Improving the Immune System 
The Chi Machine stimulates globulin production which increases the immune system's level of response.

Cellular Activation
Massage stimulation to the sympathetic nervous system, opens up the bronchioles to provide maximum oxygen access to the lungs. Simultaneously the blood flow to and from the lungs is increased, enhancing oxygen exchange from the lungs to the blood and therefore to the body cells, which excites cellular metabolism.

Blood Production
Blood is produced in the spleen and spinal bone marrow. Reduction of spleenal blood production can arise from the spleen's susceptibility to damage. The Chi Machine's action on the spine stimulates the sympathetic nervous system, increasing spinal 'marrow' blood production. Any form of anaemia can be benefited by this massage action.

Spinal Alignment
With the body relaxed in the lying position with no weight on the spine, the machine will influence a correction to certain conditions of misalignment. Such corrective action can in turn cure or alleviate complications arising in vertebrae joints from certain spinal misalignment.

Utilization of Full Spinal Movement
The spine's design permits sideways 'snake-like' movement that serves to relieve vertebrae joint pressure and thereby promote greater 'well being'. Modern man fails to exercise this design feature, part of the reason being that stress of the mind creates body tension and rigidity. Spinal movement has been reduced to a forward and upright bending action and even in walking, the natural twisting - sideways movement of the spine from arm, leg and upper torso momentum, is restrained by body tensions and rigidity.

When we awaken or feel tired, we raise our arms, stretch and yawn, and in the process, flex the spinal column in a twisting snake-like movement (cats and dogs do exactly the same movement several times a day). Instantly we feel a pleasurable sensation of energy movement and alertness of mind. The reason being that in yawning, the lungs fill with air and greater oxygenation of cells occurs, pressure on the in-vertebral discs momentarily releases and the autonomic nervous system is stimulated.

Restoration of Balance to the Autonomic Nervous System
If the parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous systems fail to ensure balance of function, insomnia, excessive dreaming, digestive problems, stomach pain, palpitation, anxiety, constipation, neurasthenia and extensive forms of aches and pains as well as mental stress may surface. The influence of the Sun Ancon Chi Machine on the sympathetic nervous system can restore the vital balance to the nervous system, resulting in restoration of health from such conditions. It is interesting to note that cancer patients are stuck in the sympathetic mode of 'fight or flight', when they really need the parasympathetic mode of 'rest and relaxation'.

SPINAL ALIGNMENT, BACK PROBLEMS
The Chi Machine - Specific motion energy to balance, align and strengthen the spine and spinal cord.

What is the role of the spine and why is adjustment necessary?
FYI: Doctors stress the importance of spinal traction and the adjustment of bones and muscles. This is because bones and muscles support and regulate the main and collateral spinal channels. An improperly aligned spine leads to sore bones and problems in the main and collateral channels, as well as in the vital organs of the body. Thus, if the spine is out of proper alignment, it can cause such things as inflammation of the shoulder, spurs, nerve pain, stomach aches and joint pain.

Why does pain occur in the vital body organs? - Because nerves radiate from the spine to the vital body organs. The nervous system is the brain's communication system. A crooked spine constricts the peripheral nervous system radiating from it. If that nerve happens to extend to the stomach, the stomach will be pathologically changed. Vital organs will ache. The most severe symptoms that can result from this is compression of the peripheral nerves.

How does the Sun Ancon Chi Machine adjust the spine?
Adjustment by Traction: When you are reclining, the spine does not have to support the weight of the body, so it assumes a natural state. By repeatedly vibrating the spine every day, misalignment may be greatly reduced.

Repetitive Massaging: If you are massaged repeatedly by the action of the Chi Machine you may not develop spurs. The Chi Machine may adjust the spine by oscillating the patient from head to toe like a wriggling centipede adjusting the whole spine all the way up to the cervical vertebra.

NOTE: The Chi Mahine is very popular with chiropractors for relaxation and spinal alignment, which makes their office adjustments much easier to perform.

Enclosed within your spinal cord, is the Autonomic Nervous System:

The Autonomic Nervous System(ANS), is an essential part of the body, controlling most of your involuntary and intuitive everyday body functions. It is composed of two branches, the Parasympathetic and the Sympathetic. These two branches are enclosed within the spinal cord and extend to the lungs, heart, blood vessels, the eyes, stomach, intestines, liver and kidneys, bladder, sex organs and sweat, salivary and digestive glands. When any of these nerves malfunction, when one system becomes more active, the body begins to act up and respond accordingly.

When these systems are working properly, the Sympathetic and Parasympathetic nerves trade off as needed. In times of stress or when extra activation is needed, the Sympathetic system steps in. Once the crisis is averted, the body settles down under the gentle care of the Parasympathetic System.

The Sympathetic Nervous System sends signals to multiple different body organs, stimulating the body - fight or flight.
The Parasympathetic Nervous System inhibits and keeps activity calm - rest and regeneration.

How to use the Chi Machine
Simply lie down, set the timer for 4-6 minutes and the Chi Machine will do the rest.
Two minutes to begin, for the frail or the unwell, 4-6 minutes to begin with for everyone else.
15-20 minutes maximum, per session - 1-3 times daily.

Where to get a Chi Machine

You can order the original Sun Ancon Chi Machine or get a Chi Master or other machine from Ebay. Some Chiropractors and other practitioners like masseuses also sell Chi Machines.  

Since my visit and first try of a Chi Machine at the massage place, I became a happy owner of one. I got mine on Ebay and have been using it daily! I have noticed great energy increase, more flexibility in my spine and in body in general. I will be using it daily!

Neurotherapy - where East and West meet

Have you heard about NeuroPhysics Therapy and Ken Ware? If not, let me introduce you to this amazing therapy.

NeuroPhysics Therapy is something you all want to get to know and let your family and friends know about it. This therapy will be a game changer in exercise, personal training, rehabilitation, healing and how we view our body and its capacity to heal and to recover. It will be revolutionary in prevention, too.

Let's start with one of the videos that grabbed my attention:
The Most Effective Therapy for Rapid Relaxation of a Scoliosis of the Spine (One Patient’s Testimonial)
Ken Ware and the NeuroPhysics team has a centre on the Gold Coast, Queensland and planning to open at many other locations, too.

Put simply, NeuroPhysics Training and Rehabilitation (NPTR) is a scientific, systems based, exercise programme that has the capacity to optimise the functional performance of any person who engages in the process. NeuroPhysics continues to achieve unprecedented results for patients in remarkable time scales and this is what drives their vision to be the most scientifically advanced and best form of training and rehabilitation in the world.

The team trains and provides treatments to a diverse range of people including elite athletes, spinal cord injured patients, people wishing to improve their general health and wellbeing as well as patients recovering from trauma and neurological conditions. Their team of practitioners consistently achieve fantastic results with their patients.

The Neurophysics Team believe that everyone deserves a better quality of life. In order to bring about true health and healing they believe it’s the person, not the problem that needs to be treated no matter the disease or disorder. NeuroPhysics is designed to do that – Enhance Lives. It does not discriminate and provides everyone that engages in it with the tools to improve their quality of life.

 Unlike most other training and rehabilitation methods, this therapy targets the origins of the disorder rather than just the mechanics and symptoms. It’s a solution focused process rather than a problem focused one, assisting patients in the control and management of their disorder/condition. Ken has been practicing for over 30 years and has helped thousands of patients with various complex ailments and pathologies.

What the team does encompass everything - the programme and process stabilises and restores the physical and emotional integrity of the individual. You cannot alter one without altering the other for the better. It is a holistic health & wellbeing programme. So all of their patients regardless of their disease or disorder all have great and positive emotional shifts.  All ailments have emotions attached to them and sometimes it is the instability of the emotions that cause the physical ailments so these are things that they are very practiced at dealing with and get great results with also.

 

You can also visit the following websites that showcase what they are about, the science behind NeuroPhysics FMC and case studies and testimonials from a variety of patients and patients they have helped over the years.

NeuroPhysics Functional Movement Centre

www.neurophysicsfmc.com

NeuroPhysics Education

www.neurophysicseducation.com.au

Testimonial Videos:

https://vimeo.com/user20254671

NPTR YouTube channel:

www.youtube.com/user/NeuroPhysicsFP

Facebook with weekly updates:

https://www.facebook.com/NeuroPhysicsFP

With the recent international and national media coverage for NeuroPhysics and Ken Ware, and the roll out of NeuroPhysics centres across Australia, New Zealand and internationally, they anticipate that this will grow even further as the overall benefits of the programme are fully appreciated. There has been confirmation of a collaborative research agreement with the highly regarded School of Advanced International Studies for Applied Theoretical and Non Linear Methodologies of Physics (SAISTMP), at the University of Bari in Italy. The NeuroPhysics founder, Ken Ware forecasts some unprecedented and unique scientific research outcomes from this collaboration, which will complement the significant practical outcomes being achieved on a daily basis by his scientific, systems based, exercise programme.

The Scientific process has been documented and published in the prestigious Frontiers Scientific peer reviewed journal and presented at numerous high level international scientific conferences. Here are some links to these articles for your review, although some of them are quite lengthy these documents are full of valuable Scientific based information.

Scientific publications:

https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Ken_Ware/publications

To contact the centre with your enquiries:

NEUROPHYSICS

t. +61 7 5593 0688

e. info@neurophysicsfmc.com

Unit 5, 2 Energy Circuit, Robina QLD 4226

1800 YOUR NEURO | www.neurophysicsfmc.com

This therapy will change how physical training, exercise, healing and rehabilitation will be done in Australia and hopefully soon, around the world. What is more exciting, prevention will take place much earlier, thanks to NeuroPhysics Therapy!

The Truth and Facebook

Facebook is still only 12 years old in 2016 when I write this blog article, although it feels like it has been part of our lives forever...

Most of my friends who are similar in age to me or older are still not on Facebook. They still think that Facebook is just for "young" people and it's all junk. Let's not go there right now! :)

Those of us, who belong to the "older" generation on Facebook, our lives are in a very different stage and what interests us, might be quite different from my students. Being a teacher, my social circle is probably quite different from the average member's. Many of my ex-students are from Hungary. Those relationships with them are very different from my students from Australia or other places. It is hard to explain why... Maybe because I was a young, beginner teacher teaching music and running a 120-member children's choir travelling and performing a lot. The experience we lived through together in music is a very strong bond. Maybe because our school, the Kodaly School is one of the most unique schools in the world, no doubt about that. We had a very special relationship that lasted despite the 22 years that I have spent in Australia and the 15,549km-s that separate us.

It is lovely to see their lives unfolding on Facebook. Getting their degrees, finding their life partners, seeing the pictures of their first, second, third children and how quickly they grow up. Pictures of my friends' holidays, traveling, dinners, lunches and even breakfast shakes while the world goes by. In the meantime we see the tragedies that the news share with us, the consequences of our human acts and how we kill living habitats of our Earth and destroy our planet. Pictures of war, terror acts and the terrible things that some human beings do. Not a happy sight!

There is much talk about how we pretend on Facebook. How we all try to put up the best pictures of ourselves, share our success, the Good News, brag about our trips, our holidays, our new belongings, whatever would make others envy us, envy our lives. Try to cover up the not so good aspect of our lives.

In the meantime life is happening behind the scenes, behind the logged out screen of Facebook.

This might not be the reality for many of my students, for many of the younger generation but they will catch up with time, too.

Life has it's cycles. There is a time for schooling, getting your first job, seeing the world, meeting The One, there is a time for getting married, starting a family, buying your first home, having your children then being fired from your job, being depressed, getting sick, relationship break ups, loosing your best friend, separation, divorce, your parents divorcing, finding a new job, getting cancer, your parents passing away, your children growing up and going through the same cycle. For some, things don't happen at the usual time line but earlier or later, depending how "lucky" you happen to be. It makes a big difference how good family and friend network you have to support you through tough times in life.

I lost my parents and loved ones very early in life. I also left behind everyone when I came to Australia. I am pretty much well trained in grief, if I may say it like this. Maybe this made me distance myself more as a protection. Lost enough people whom I loved dearly.

However, I remember the day when on Facebook I learnt about the passing of a dear mentor and friend. I was stoned. Somehow you think, everyone is immortal on Facebook, no bad happens to anyone but only on the news and your friends will be there with you forever. It was really hard what and how to respond. However, the best came out as people responded genuinely, honestly and very warmly. His page became a memorial page to his life. I don't know how much comfort his wife and family got from it. I think Facebook is the last thing you want to see when you lost a loved one. Real real human interaction and support is what you want in those times.

Not long ago a friend of mine, similar age, lost her husband due to cancer. There were some lovely, very touching posts from her about his passing, his life and her memories about him. People were really good expressing their empathy and sympathy. For me, it was obvious that my friend needed to get it out on Facebook and share it with her circle of influence. Honestly, I was glad she did it. For many reasons. Most importantly, for her sake. Writing it out, expressing yourself in whatever way you feel like has a healing, cleansing effect. Just get it out. Shout, cry if you need to. There is always enough time for quiet contemplation. There is enough time when you are alone. The nights are long enough...

We also had a chance to see how the days, weeks and months brought comfort and how my friend busied herself and built herself up after her loss. She is the type of person who learnt to appreciate the smallest things in life. A sunrise, a beautiful bird, the unique Australian landscape, a visit of a friend, a good chat and a cup of tea or a lovely sunset, she took it all in and she appreciated it. She was grateful for every day, even without her husband. She taught us a lesson too.


My other big topic is ageing. And especially ageing women. I really think that Facebook has a huge role in changing the culture. Just the other day I watched 60 mins. There was an interview that Ray Martin did with someone. I noticed that he is not getting younger either. But while I was looking the wrinkled face of this interviewer, I wondered what happened to his female colleagues of the same age? You simply do not see old female TV personalities. They get booted as soon as they loose their freshness. The only ageing women you see is the SBS reporter, Lee Li Chin. She is quite a character and a fantastic TV personality, I think that saves her! I hope that time comes when all ages and races will be much better represented in Australian TV and movies. Ageing is natural. Those of us who live long long enough to age are the lucky ones. Many people have not been that lucky and left us way too early. Ageing also gives you a chance to become who you really supposed to be.

There are some really great examples in the film industry, where actors like brilliant Maggie Smith and Meryl Streep are changing the role of older female actors. Maggie Smith is the Grand Lady and whatever she takes on, makes it a success. Be it Downton Abbey or The best exotic Marigold Hotel. Meryl Streep is showing the world that ageing women can be funny, sexy, clever and presentable on screen. Unfortunately, men can just be themselves and age. No hairdo, no make up, no waxing, no fancy clothes. Women, on the other hand, constantly need to face the expectations that century long conditioning put on us. For example, a few minutes after birth you need to be back in shape and be a Super Mum. A woman is like the Hindu's multiple-armed Goddess of Durga! Life for women is like Big Brother constantly watching!

Let's stop here for a moment. Celebrities. Our lives on Facebook is a little like the life of celebrities. Sunshine, fast cars, big house, women and travel. The perfect life! How far is it from reality? Wrinkles, orange skin, fat bulges, sickness can't be part of it. Don't even try unemployment, financial troubles, sickness and death. Most people just scroll. It's too hard! However, this is the time when you would know who your real friends are.  Because most of the many hundred friends you have on Facebook CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH! That's when you should cull and keep the ones that support you. The rest is just garnish!

Anything that is a little bit more heavy topic, like politics, climate change, education, health care or the darker side of your life will be taboo. For most of them. Some will even un-friend you if you carry on too long on those topics.

Please don't misunderstand me. I am not one who likes to be bombarded by tragic news, political news, negative posts or tragedies of life. There is enough of that everywhere. I like positive, uplifting and happy things on Facebook and in life. However, I think it is also a mistake to live up in the clouds and totally ignore reality. It is a mistake to ignore the cries of my friends for help, for support. Otherwise Facebook is really junk, useless and unreal, virtual gathering of people you know.
There has to be a balance and reality. Of course, there is a limit how much bad news or whinging you can take from your friends. But we need to feel connected and real for Facebook and our life to make sense. We need to be able to handle the truth. Does not matter how unpleasant or tragic it can be at times. Pain is necessary to feel alive and to appreciate when things go well.

I must admit, I really enjoyed Facebook before beautiful pictures and funny videos took over my wall. There were more honest, interesting and real life posts from my friends. Then 'celebrity life' took over. It became a competition of who can find nicer, better, bigger or more interesting photos or videos. It became a delusional place. An imaginery, dream scene where we go to escape from reality. Many times when I scroll I scroll the pictures and videos and look for words. My friends own words. There is a limit how many cute cats, dogs, baby photos or beautiful landscapes you want to see. I really enjoy posts of friends with special interests other than cats, dogs, recipes and babies although I like them, too. Anything, just be different is good! God, sometimes what a relief to be a musician!

I am sure that some of my friends feel the same way, here she goes again about music! But you see, variety, being different, loving and caring about different things is good!

It just shows that your truth and my truth are not the same.

Facebook's truth? It teaches you to question everything!